The power of love: Etienne Cardiles’ moving eulogy for his husband Xavier Jugelé

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Last Thursday, on the Champs-Élysées in Paris, a single shooter killed a 37-year-old police officer named Xavier Jugelé in the name of IS. For days, the news cycle – President Trump –  focused on how that terror attack would impact the French election.

But the biggest impact was on one man, Etienne Cardiles, Jugelé’s life partner. The husband of the French policeman who was shot dead last week has opened up about his ‘extreme and profound pain’.

Tributes have been flooding in for Xavier Jugelé, 37, who was murdered on Thursday while on duty on Champs Elysees avenue, in an attack which has since been claimed by so-called Islamic State. The murderer, the 39-year-old Karim Cheurfi, was killed at the scene. He had served more than 12 years in prison for shooting at police officers and was being investigated by intelligence service at the time.

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Jugele’s husband, Etienne Cardiles paid tribute to his “life of joy and laughter”. He spoke about his murdered husband today at a remembrance ceremony led by President Francois Hollande at Paris police headquarters. In front of hundreds of mourners like Paris Mayor Anne Hidalgo and former president Nicolas Sarkozy and presidential candidates Emmanuel Macron and Marine Le Pen, Cardiles described his husband as a lover of music and theatre, and “a man full of culture and joy”.

Xavier Jugelé, who joined the Paris police force in 2010, was part of the response team called to the Bataclan theatre following the deadly Paris terror shooting in November 2015.

Xavier’s husband Etienne Cardiles delivered an emotional and powerful eulogy at a memorial service. In an emotional, moving speech, Cardiles told the crowd: “I’m suffering without hate. He repeated the quote coined by Antoine Leiris, who lost his wife during that terror attack and said: “You will not have my hatred”.

Husband of murdered Paris police officer delivers moving eulogy

On the morning of the attack, Xavier and Etienne were making plans to take a holiday together. “I returned home that evening without you, with an extreme and profound pain, that maybe, one day, will weaken”, Etienne said.

When I first got messages saying something had happened on the Champs Elysees, and that a policeman had died, a small voice told me it was you, and brought back to me that generous and healing phrase: ‘You will not have my hatred’.

Etienne told his husband that he does not feel hatred for those who killed him “because it is not like you. Because it does not correspond to anything that made your heart beat, nor why you entered the police force”.

Husband of murdered Paris police officer delivers moving eulogy

Because public service, helping others and protecting everyone was part of your education and your convictions – “And tolerance, dialogue and patience were your strongest weapons.

Cardiles spoke lovingly, intimately and directly to Jugele, recalling how “going to the cinema to watch five films on a sunny August day would not make you blink”.

Your favourite stars were Celine Dion, Zazie, Madonna, Britney Spears and so many others who made our windows rattle.

Theatre transported you to another world, where you lived fully.

You would shy away from no cultural activity

You would see the very worst films the day they came out, right to the end, no matter how bad they were.

Etienne finished his speech by paying tribute to what was most important to Xavier:

A life of joy and laughter, in which love and tolerance were your uncontested masters.

You lived like a star, and leave like a star.

Xavier Jugelé has been promoted to police captain and awarded Chevalier of the Legion of Honor posthumously.

First Kiss

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Global Love Day (GLD) is an annual celebration of humanity which is celebrated in countries and communities around the world each May 1. The Love Foundation, the nonprofit organization whose mission it is to “Inspire people to love unconditionally” presents the international event as a symbolic day of unconditional love. Global Love Day’s main theme, “Love begins with me,” has been the focus since its inception.

The six tenets of Global Love Day are:

We are one humanity on this planet.
All life is interconnected and interdependent.

All share in the Universal bond of love.
Love begins with self acceptance and forgiveness.

With respect and compassion we embrace diversity.
Together we make a difference through love.

In recent years, Global Love Day has additionally been celebrated in the virtual world of Second Life. Since 2010, the virtual event is held in a specially created sim and includes a full day of dancing, meditating and other activities. In 2011, it was reported that over 800 avatars from around the world attended Global Love Day in Second Life.

Idan Bitton and Alfredo Calle Ferran First Kiss

In honor of Global Love Day, The Love Foundation also hosts an annual Art, Essay and Poetry Invitational where people of all ages can share their creative expression of global love. Submissions reflect the universal understanding of love, unity, tolerance, compassion and represent the idea of Global Love Day along with its theme ‘Love begins with me’.

Alfredo Calle Ferran made the movie First Kiss. First Kiss is a 84 minute kiss video between the artists Idan Bitton and Alfredo Calle Ferran. While the camera is still, the kiss is in motion provoking the viewer to stay and watch. Idan and Alfredo do not interact with the viewer, but offer a peek into their intimate moments of commitment. This long lasting, present and unapologetic kiss defines our current gay rights momentum. We are here, we love each other, and this is what it looks like. First Kiss became a revolition. Countless people got inspired by this movie, and made their own First Kiss You Tube projects…..

 

By: Idan Bitton (www.facebook.com/idanbittonstudio)
Performed: Idan Bitton & Alfredo Calle Ferran
Video: Runn Shayo

more of Idan’s work:
http://www.idanbitton.com
http://www.facebook.com/idanbittonstudio

The scent of sexy

 

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It’s almost the day of love, and for many people ‘setting the mood’ may be high on the priority list. You may have heard about certain foods being aphrodisiacs, but your sense of smell can do the job much more efficiently. Our sense of smell is the sense most closely related to our emotions. Creating the right mood can be as simple as adding the right scent to your body, clothing, or bedroom. 

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Jasmine, Nerolli, Rose, Rosemary, Ylang Ylang or Patchulli essential oils are not only aphrodisiacs, but can also promote relaxation and confidence. Use massage oils containing one or more of these essential oils to give a sensual massage. Warm the oil in your hands and gently massage the back, arms, legs, and hands to create a relaxing and sexually stimulating experience for your partner.

Put a few drops of one of the essential oils on a cotton ball and put in the drawer with your lingerie; you can also put the cotton ball in a baggie with your desired garments to concentrate the scent (notice: do not apply the essential oils directly to your skin or garments).

Give the room a little aromatherapy by adding a few drops of essential oil to a bowl of warm water, or a warm bath. Dilute a few drops of essential oil in water and spritz your sheets, clothing, and body to create a relaxing, luxurious, and stimulating atmosphere.

Add a few candles, the right music, and voila – you have the perfect evening for Cupid’s finest.

by Jean Amr xx

Bridegroom

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Bridegroom (full title: Bridegroom: A Love Story, Unequaled) is a 2013 American documentary film about the relationship between two young gay men, produced and directed by Linda Bloodworth-Thomason. Bridegroom premiered at the 2013 Tribeca Film Festival on April 23, 2013, and attracted further press coverage because its premiere screening at the festival was introduced by former President Bill Clinton..

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Tom Bridegroom (Click photo to enlarge).

The film won the festival’s Audience Award for Best Documentary Film. The film jointly received the 2014 GLAAD Media Award for Outstanding Documentary.

‘Bridegroom’ chronicles the story of Shane Bitney Crone and his partner Thomas Lee ‘Tom’ Bridegroom, who died in a tragic accident. After Bridegroom’s death, Crone found himself cut off and deprived of any legal protection. The film tells the story of their 6-year-long relationship, and the struggles Crone faced after Bridegroom’s death, including the family not allowing Crone to attend the funeral of his life partner.

The story is told by Shane Bitney Crone, family and friends. Vèry touching! One of the most ‘beautiful’ films I’ve èver seen!

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Tom Bridegroom (Click photo to enlarge).

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Happy times. Shane Bitney Crone and Tom Bridegroom in high in the mountains of Machu Picciu, Peru (Click photo to enlarge).

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Shane Bitney Crone and Tom Bridegroom in the city of love, Paris, France (Click photo to enlarge).

Bridegroom made its television premiere on October 27, 2013, on the Oprah Winfrey Network. The film was also released on DVD. For instant streaming you can see the movie on Netflix….

Don’t forget your tissue’s….

by Jean Amr